Growing Pains/Adulting

 

Recently I found myself standing up for someone who I don’t personally like.  Not because I want to get on their good side, just simply it was the right thing to do.  Somehow, I found the experience, liberating.

We are living in the age of mean girls.  I mean, we talk bad about the people we hate, even though they are right.  We are inclined to support the people that we like, even when we know deep inside our hearts, they are wrong.  Just simply because they are our friends, or we support them politically.

I don’t understand that concept.  I mean, I think we could still be someone’s friend and still disagree with them.  That’s what made the friendship interesting, in my personal opinion and experience, when you’re still able to have a healthy debate and still remain friends.  Same theory applied for the opposite situation, you can dislike a person, but if they have a great quality about them, I think you should give them a credit.  Hence if they have an idea that you like or an opinion you’d like to support, I think it’s fair for you to support it.  Blindly agreeing or disagreeing with people just because they’re not your acquaintances is just petty.

Yet these days, in this society I’m living in, having different opinion means you are a nemesis of that person.  It means you’re on the other side of the aisle waiting to attack.  At the moment I feel, there is no place for in the same aisle if you have a difference in opinion.

That’s absurd.

I mean, if you agree on EVERY aspect of life with a person, I think that would be bland. Don’t you?

If you’re in an organization where everybody just like the same color and wear the same clothes, up until the same accessories doesn’t that seems dull?  A word totalitarian comes to mind, but I won’t go that far.

Recently I had a friend told me that they became wiser because of the series of trials and tribulations life threw at them.  I laughed, but it is true though.  We grew from pain, we learned from disagreements and healthy debates.  We become better.

So I guess in this polarizing world, I’d like to say, listen to each other.  If you find yourself in the other side of an aisle from a person, rather than judging their belief, gave them a chance to explain why they’re there.  You’d be surprised.  Aside from the conflicting principle, you’d find something in common.  You realize they’re probably share a common goal with you.  Or simply you will find a great sparring partner for a healthy debate.  You’d be surprise.