Recently I found myself standing up for someone who I don’t
personally like. Not because I want to
get on their good side, just simply it was the right thing to do. Somehow, I found the experience, liberating.
We are living in the age of mean girls. I mean, we talk bad about the people we hate,
even though they are right. We are inclined
to support the people that we like, even when we know deep inside our hearts,
they are wrong. Just simply because they
are our friends, or we support them politically.
I don’t understand that concept. I mean, I think we could still be someone’s
friend and still disagree with them. That’s
what made the friendship interesting, in my personal opinion and experience, when
you’re still able to have a healthy debate and still remain friends. Same theory applied for the opposite situation,
you can dislike a person, but if they have a great quality about them, I think
you should give them a credit. Hence if they
have an idea that you like or an opinion you’d like to support, I think it’s
fair for you to support it. Blindly
agreeing or disagreeing with people just because they’re not your acquaintances
is just petty.
Yet these days, in this society I’m living in, having
different opinion means you are a nemesis of that person. It means you’re on the other side of the aisle
waiting to attack. At the moment I feel,
there is no place for in the same aisle if you have a difference in opinion.
That’s absurd.
I mean, if you agree on EVERY aspect of life with a person, I
think that would be bland. Don’t you?
If you’re in an organization where everybody just like the
same color and wear the same clothes, up until the same accessories doesn’t that
seems dull? A word totalitarian comes to
mind, but I won’t go that far.
Recently I had a friend told me that they became wiser because
of the series of trials and tribulations life threw at them. I laughed, but it is true though. We grew from pain, we learned from disagreements
and healthy debates. We become better.
So I guess in this polarizing world, I’d like to say, listen
to each other. If you find yourself in
the other side of an aisle from a person, rather than judging their belief,
gave them a chance to explain why they’re there. You’d be surprised. Aside from the conflicting principle, you’d find
something in common. You realize they’re
probably share a common goal with you.
Or simply you will find a great sparring partner for a healthy
debate. You’d be surprise.